While some Hollywood lovebirds show PDA like nobody’s business, others relish their privacy. And you know what? That’s totally okay. Relationships are never perfect, and the stress of living out your romance in the spotlight can be, well, a bit much. That’s probably why so many celebrities keep their relationships so on the DL that us normal people out here barely even know the coupledom exists. Intrigued? Keep reading.
Like, did you know that Lady Gaga has a new BF? Or that Penelope Cruz has been with the same man for over 10 years? Or that Meryl Streep lives a non-Hollywood life with her husband in Connecticut? Basically, there is a looot to learn about all of your favorite celebs, especially when it comes to their super-secretive relationships.
Here, a look at some of the celebrity couples you almost forgot were still together—because they’re the definition of low-key.
Alicia Vikander, 31, and Michael Fassbender, 43 How long they’ve been together: The couple fell in love while filming The Light Between Oceans back in 2014, and made it official in a secret wedding ceremony in the summer of 2017. Why you forget they’re together: “I think we’ve made a clear statement that we keep certain things just between us. It was very easy to unite, but that’s quite personal,” Fassbender said to Entertainment Weekly. They are super quiet about any personal details and are not photographed together often.
Amanda Seyfried, 34, and Thomas Sadoski, 44 How long they’ve been together: Amanda and Thomas had worked together on Broadway, but were both with other people at the time. They finally reconnected and built a relationship on The Last Word in 2016. “[He] never flirted, never disrespected his wife. That was another reason why I thought, later on, that I could marry him,” Amanda told PORTER Magazine. They were married in 2017 and now have a daughter, Nina. Why you forget they’re together: The glitz and glam of Hollywood and publicity just isn’t for them. For example, their low-key wedding was a ceremony with just the two of them, followed by brunch at a neighborhood café. Why? “I get married all the time [on screen]. I was in a wedding dress last week!” Amanda told PORTER. “I also go to premieres where people take my picture. I just don’t care about all that stuff.”
Salma Hayek, 53, and François-Henri Pinault, 58 How long they’ve been together: Salma and François met back in 2006 at a charity gala in Venice, and one year later, they shared the happy news of a pregnancy and an engagement. Why you forget they’re together: Salma’s not about using her relationship for fame. “It’s such a romantic, amazing story, but it is mine. I don’t want to vulgarize it by making it into a story to make myself interesting,” she said to Town & Country in 2019.
Leighton Meester, 34, and Adam Brody, 40 How long they’ve been together: They confirmed they were dating in 2013 after meeting on the set of The Oranges in 2011. They married in a private ceremony in February 2014 and welcomed a baby girl in August 2015. Why you forget they’re together: The couple has kept their relationship under wraps on purpose. Both had dealt with public breakups before, she with Sebastian Stan in 2010 and Brody with Rachel Bilson in 2006.
Penelope Cruz, 46, and Javier Bardem, 51 How long they’ve been together: They reportedly began dating in 2007 and married in 2010 in the Bahamas. Between them they have two children *and* two Oscars, hah. Why you forget they’re together: After having her son, Leo, in 2011, Penelope told Vogue: “I want my son—and my kids if I have more—to grow up in a way that is as anonymous as possible.” They have taken this seriously: They welcomed a second child, daughter Luna, in 2013.
Rachel Weisz, 50, and Daniel Craig, 52 How long they’ve been together: They wed in a secret ceremony in June 2011 with only four guests in attendance. They welcomed a baby girl in August 2018. Why you forget they’re together: They’re too famous to talk about. No, really. Weisz told More magazine in their December/January 2015 issue, “He’s just too famous. It would be a betrayal” to talk about her marriage.
Kirsten Dunst, 38, and Jesse Plemons, 32 How long they’ve been together: The actors met on the set of Fargo season 2 and got together a year after, in 2016. “I loved Kirsten’s work for a long time, and I was really excited once I’d met her, and she’s a great person, and we’re both actors that just…have fun with the material,” Jesse said at PaleyFest in 2015. And, ICYMI (you probably did) the pair welcomed a baby boy, Ennis, in 2018. Why you forgot they’re together: Kirsten is typically pretty open about her relationships (she ended her very-public, long-term relationship with Garret Hedlund in 2016), so her quiet romance has come as a surprise.
Cameron Diaz, 47, and Benji Madden, 41 How long they’ve been together: They were first linked in May 2014, and got married in early January 2015. They welcomed their daughter, Raddix, in January, 2020. Why you forget they’re together: Cameron and Benji are a low-key couple only spotted doing similarly low-key things. They shy away from the red carpet and reserve any PDA for understated Instagram posts. Their wedding was so top-secret that it took place at their home in Beverly Hills.
Dave Franco, 35, and Alison Brie, 37 How long they’ve been together: They’ve been dating since early 2012 and got engaged in August 2015, followed by a 2017 wedding. Rumor has it, the couple wrote a romantic comedy together during lockdown. Why you forgot they’re together: The married couple is so secretive they rarely appear together in public, and they veeery rarely show up to red carpet gatherings together.
Kerry Washington, 43, and Nnamdi Asomugha, 39 How long they’ve been together: They married in 2013 after three years of secretly dating. Their daughter, Isabelle, was born in April 2014, and their son, Caleb, in 2016. Why you forget they’re together: Kerry does not discuss her personal life publicly. She and Nnamdi, a retired professional football player, have only been spotted together a few times since they started dating, except for the very occasional Instagram pic.
Natalie Portman, 39, and Benjamin Millepied, 43 How long they’ve been together: They met on the set of Black Swan in 2010—Benjamin was the choreographer. During her acceptance speech for Best Actress at the 83rd Academy Awards in 2011, a then-pregnant Natalie thanked him with the sweetest mention. “My beautiful love, Benjamin Millepied, who choreographed the film and has now given me my most important role in my life,” she said. Why you forgot they’re together: Even though Natalie is a red-carpet regular, she’s fairly quiet about her personal life with her dancer husband.
Alicia Keys, 37, and Swizz Beatz, 41 How long they’ve been together: They’ve been linked since 2008 and got engaged two years later. The couple have two kids of their own, and Alicia is the step-mother to Kasseem Dean’s (a.k.a. Swizz Beatz) three children from his previous marriage. Why you forgot they’re together: Alicia and Swizz are notoriously quiet about their personal life and have a knack for leaving us wanting much more (especially after cute Instagrams like this).
Eva Mendes, 46, and Ryan Gosling, 39 How long they’ve been together: Eva and Ryan were linked after meeting on the set of The Place Beyond the Pines in 2011. They’ve been very mum’s the word on their relationship timeline and haven’t tied the knot despite being together for *years*. Why you forgot they’re together: They’re super-duper low profile when it comes to their relationship. Even though they have been together since 2011 and have two children together, their public appearances are extremely rare (Eva even skipped the 2017 Academy Awards—Ryan was nominated for Best Actor for La La Land—to stay at home with their girls, Esmeralda and Amada).
Isla Fisher, 44, and Sacha Baron Cohen, 48 How long they’ve been together: Isla and Sacha met in 2002 and married in a traditional-but-small Jewish ceremony in 2010 (the guest list reportedly included six people). Why you forgot they’re together: Although they have been together 16 years, they keep their family life relatively quiet. The equally-hilarious partners have made epic appearances together at awards shows, but intimate details surrounding their relationship and children are few and far-between.
Jessica Alba, 39, and Cash Warren, 41 How long they’ve been together: They got together shortly after meeting on the set of Fantastic Four in 2004 (Jessica was starring as Sue Storm and Cash was working as a production assistant) and wed in a courthouse ceremony in Beverly Hills in 2008. “Cash has the ability to pull himself out of a situation,” Jessica told Reveal magazine in 2020. “Sometimes I get so wrapped up in the moment, especially when there’s a challenge or conflict, and he is just so much more relaxed. I learned from him to make the time that we have with the kids really count.” Why you forgot they’re together: Despite Jessica’s A-list status, Cash is more of a behind-the-scenes-guy.
Karlie Kloss, 27, and Josh Kushner, 35 How long they’ve been together: Since November 2012. Why you forget they’re together: They have very few PDA-moments, but maybe that’s because they’re both so busy. Josh, the son of real-estate mogul Charles Kushner and the younger brother of Ivanka Trump’s husband, Jared, is an Ivy League grad and the co-founder of Oscar Insurance. Karlie is a globetrotting supermodel and the founder of Kode With Klossy, a scholarship for young women studying coding and computer science.
Zoe Saldana, 42, and Marco Perego, 41 How long they’ve been together: The couple began dating and wed in 2013, although Zoe says they had known each other for years. “I met my partner when I was in really a beautiful place in my life. It was like I found all my answers with him, not in him. I was finding my answers on my own,” she told Fashion magazine. Now, the two have three kiddos together. Why you forgot they’re together: Zoe and Marco got married after a few weeks of dating—they kept their relationship so quiet that most people didn’t know about it until they had already said “I do.”
Julia Roberts, 50, and Danny Moder, 49 How long they’ve been together: The duo met on the set of The Mexican in 2000 and got married in 2002. They have three children together—Hazel, Phinnaeus, and Henry Daniel. Why you forgot they’re together: Julia has a history of public relationships (the actress was engaged to Kiefer Sutherland, briefly married to Lyle Lovett, and dated celebrities like Benjamin Bratt), but her 15-year-long marriage is notoriously private. She usually walks the red carpet solo and shares little personal information to the press.