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The term “self-love” seems to be everywhere. Yes, wonderful, great. Who doesn’t want to love who they are and accept themselves flaws and all? But in reality, it can be so elusive to actually do just that. So how do you fall in love with yourself, when that loud critic in your head is always judging, pushing, comparing and you’re coming up short. It seems to be so much easier to do with someone else—which is why we always focus on falling in love with a partner.

We’ve been conditioned to think that that wonderful feeling of being “in love” requires another person to feel it. What if you could create that same magical, all-is-right-in-the-world feeling without needing anyone else? You absolutely can, friend, and what’s more, if you fall in love with amazing you, all your other relationships around you will inevitably improve … they just do. And it doesn’t have to take years, it can happen in small ways, every day. It takes practice, intention, and patience. And the payoff is huge, game-changing, as you’ll feel happier, centered, and have an overall better outlook about everything. Here are 10 simple ways to fall in love with yourself:

1. Praise: Find ways to spotlight the good you’re doing throughout your day. Notice how thoughtful you were to a loved one, how kind you were to a stranger, or how hard you pushed yourself out of your comfort zone. Take that moment to call out everything to yourself. Take nothing about you for granted. You will start to like this person who is brave, wise, and interesting. But you have to be aware of these attributes first.


2. Do something new: Flex your muscles and try something you’ve wanted to do for a while now and have put off. Nothing grows out self-esteem like becoming more of the person you’ve always wanted to be with that new hobby, activity, or experience you’ve conquered. Bonus points if it scares the Bojangles out of you.


3. Get to know yourself: Journal your thoughts and feelings by processing your day, so you deep dive into who you are and feel current in your life, instead of stuffing complicated feelings down, creating disconnection from yourself. It’s easy to love someone you know intimately.


4. Treat people how you want to be treated: Try to authentically bring connection, kindness, and joy to those around you. It elevates your own state, and people inevitably mirror that back to you. You like who you are, and others are confirming that belief you already have about yourself: you’re uplifting to be around.


5. Meditation: To help you drop past all your busy-ness, thoughts, and feelings and move right into being. Start an easy practice of 10 minutes of silent breathwork, noticing thoughts as they come and moving your awareness back to your breath, so you can remember you’re a spirit having a human experience, and presence in meditation reminds you of that truth.



From Poosh

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