There are typically five stages of grief:
Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”
Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”
Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return I will ____.”
Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”
Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened.”
We live in a culture that wants to quickly move past grief to “get over it” as though it were an obstacle. The truth is, it’s VERY normal for someone who is grieving to feel out of balance and off for a long time. There is no right way to grieve, and there is no set time in which you “should” be over it. We must remember it’s a process; it’s here to teach us, and to be compassionate, tolerant of our feelings, and move through it!
Here are six tips for how we can move through grief in a healthy way:
1. Embrace Your Emotions
2. Keep Structure to Your Day and Goals
3. Set a Regular Sleep Schedule
4. Practice Self-Care
5. Express Your Feelings and Cry
6. Ask for Support
Some people will move past grief quickly, and for some it may never really end; it just gets easier over time. You will know when you are ready to move forward when you can reinvest the energy into something new and you can feel peace, joy, and acceptance. This takes time. Being good to yourself during the process is essential.