However, we don’t want to over-identify with our feelings. We want to accept our feelings and remember that they don’t define us.
Notice the subtle, but important, difference between feeling sad and being sad. When you start to think of yourself as a sad person (rather than a person who sometimes feels sad), you’re holding onto the feeling well beyond its usefulness. Your feelings are important, but they are only part of who you are. Feelings come and go.
Emotions are absorbed in the body in about six seconds.
Each burst of emotion chemicals, from the time it’s produced in the hypothalamus to the time it’s completely broken down and absorbed, lasts about six seconds, according to researcher Anabel Jensen.
Is it Truthful?
Is it Helpful?
Is it Insightful?
Is it Necessary?
Is it Kind?
A – Allow life to be just as it is
I – Investigate inner experience with kindness
N – Non-identification
Recognizing means consciously acknowledging your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
Allowing means letting your thoughts, emotions, feelings, or sensations to simply be there. You don’t have to change, fix, or act upon anything. Rather, you acknowledge and accept that psychological pain is a part of life.
Investigating means calling on your natural curiosity—the desire for truth—and directing focused attention to your present experience. Asking, “What is happening inside me?” can initiate recognition, but the investigation is a more intentional process.
Natural loving awareness occurs when you don’t over-identify with your feelings. This practice of non-identification means that your sense of self is not fused with any limiting emotions, sensations, or stories. You are not your mind, and you are not your emotions.
Feelings and emotions can be contagious and spread too. Another tip is to be mindful of the energy and people that you surround yourself with. We are social creatures. And because of that, we tend to pick up on each other’s emotional states.
Ultimately, feelings can guide us toward many paths that we get to choose! So make sure you stay aware and be curious. Being mindful of your feelings is key to making sure you see that your feelings are real and they can be fleeting.