Tom Brady and Gisele Bündchen’s relationship may look picture-perfect, but a lot went on behind the scenes to make their marriage work.
On Wednesday, Brady spoke to Howard Stern for his SiriusXM radio show, revealing that his supermodel wife “wasn’t satisfied” with their marriage and that they had to go to marriage counseling to patch things up.
“A couple of years ago, she didn’t feel like I was doing my part for the family,” the NFL quarterback said, per People. “She felt like I would play football all season and she would take care of the house, and then all of a sudden when the season ended, I’d be like, ‘Great, let me get into all of my other business activities. Let me get into my football training,’ and she’s sitting there going, ‘Well when are you going to do things for the house? When are you going to take the kids to school and do that?'”
He said that her unhappiness opened his eyes, adding, “That was a big part of our marriage that I had to like check myself because she was like ‘I have goals and dreams too.'”
Consequently, Brady began to pull back from projects in order to prioritize his family, but the change initially made him feel “resentful” toward his wife. They ended up attending marriage counseling. But the real turning point came when Bündchen penned a thoughtful letter to her husband.
“She actually wrote me a letter, and it was a very thought out letter that she wrote to me and I still have it and I keep it in a drawer and I read it,” he said. “It’s a very heartfelt letter for her to say this is where I’m at in our marriage, and it’s a good reminder for me that things are going to change and evolve over time. What happened and what worked for us 10 years ago won’t work for us forever because we are growing in different ways.”
He added, “The point of a relationship is that it has to work for both [partners]. You better work on both because if you don’t then it’s not sustainable.”
From Harper’s Bazaar US