Sherry Argov’s Why Men Loves Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong women who stand up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a “yes woman” who routinely sacrifices herself. Although this book contains some good advice, handy tips and plenty of focus on self-worth, it has one fault that prevents it from covering all bases. The author’s theories all work on the premise of traditional gender roles.
If you haven’t read this book yet, we have rounded some rules from Sherry Argov:
“The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be”
“Always be classy. Never be crazy.”
“The nice girl makes the mistake of being available all the time…A dream girl, on the other hand, won’t kill herself to impress anyone.”
“Don’t be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You are deeply missable. However, he’s still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.”
“Instead of working so hard to please him, work harder to please yourself…because ultimately, this is what will truly please him.”
“He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him.”
“When you meet someone who is truly great, he makes you believe you can be great, too. This is the kind of relationship you want, and it’s the only kind of relationship worth having.”
“You should never care what a man thinks of you – until he demonstrates to you that he cares about making you happy.”
“The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she’s not afraid to be without him.”
“A man knows which woman will give in to last-minute requests.”
“More than anything else, he watches to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent on him.”
“Every man wants to have sex first; whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it.”
“When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete.”
“If you give him a feeling of power, he will want to protect you and he will want to give you the world.”
“Men respect women who communicate in a succinct way, because it’s the language men use to talk to one another.”
“Jumping through hoops often has a negative outcome: He sees it as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it, too. But when you stay just outside his reach, he will stay on his best behavior.”
“When a man takes a woman for granted, he still looks for reassurance that she is still ‘right there’.
“When you start hearing that the cell battery went dead, or the cell reception wasn’t good, or he left his cell phone in his car or at the office, he’s not being honest with you”
“A lot of guys keep women on a ‘reserve list’. If he knows you’ll always be there, he’ll think, ‘I know that one wants me, so let me put her on reserve list and see who else is out there’. This is why you can never be too available, or let the guy get too comfortable. He has to worry that you won’t be there”
“A lot of the men admitted that although the ‘instant gratification’ part of them wants to have sex on the first date, if they really want to have a lasting relationship, they prefer to wait. He really be proud of. If he ends up in the sack with you on the first date, he won’t see you as ‘the one’. Moreover, when he tells you all the things he thinks you want to hear, and you seem unimpressed or nonchalant, he’ll usually start to purpose you on a more honest level.”
