Are you guilty? Disclaimer: it’s OK to fall into this category once or twice, you just don’t want it to be your main personality trait. That’s when it becomes toxic and comes off like you’re putting other women down to make yourself look better. Not sure what the heck we’re talking about? Let us explain and give you some “pick me girl” examples. Again, don’t sweat it if you’ve done one of these things before, it happens. It only becomes unattractive when…
Let’s set the scene: you walk into your room and find a dirty towel resting in a damp clump atop the bed. You shoot off a frustrated text to your SO asking them for the millionth time to please, PLEASE stop leaving their dirty towels all over the place. A few messages later and somehow you’re in a full-fledged fight over what started as a minor annoyance. Congrats, you’re fexting—aka fighting over text. This can be a divisive topic, so we tapped Vienna…
I’ve made it my life’s work to help women heal their hearts and find true love, because I truly believe that when you’re in the right romantic partnership for you, life will be that much sweeter and lighter, even when you inevitably endure hard times both within the relationship and outside the relationship. But how do you know you’re in flow with your partner, versus settling for what you know, leaving you unconsciously asleep at the wheel? I think it’s all about the…
We hear a lot of people mention their love language. It’s truly a form of communication—it’s how we express, expect, and receive love. Understanding what makes us tick in a relationship has the power to determine our needs and offerings. Dr. Gary Chapman is the author of the best-selling book, The 5 Love Languages, and naturally, the premier expert on the subject. He broke them down in detail for those of us that need a refresher, because his first suggestion in…
You know how to date by zodiac sign, but what happens after you fall in love? How can you make sure that magical first date turns into a real relationship—you know, the kind that lasts more than a month and maybe involves eventually moving in together and adopting a furbaby? Let the stars help you figure out how to make sure your LTR is actually long. Now that you found love, what are you gonna do? ARIES Sometimes you can be a little pushy—you’ve…
One of the most frustrating aspects of dating is the fact that both men and women don’t always say exactly what they’re feeling precisely when they feel it. But, thank bejesus, at least we can pick up on some helpful cues. In fact, unconscious body language signals can be extremely telling, says Patti Wood, a body language expert with more than 30 years of experience and author of Success Signals, A Guide to Reading Body Language. You can figure out what a…
Few things are more painful than the feeling that someone who is supposed to be your most trusted companion is lying to you. When that feeling arises, we often give up all our power and reason in an effort to learn the truth. The most surprising truth of all, however, may be this one: that the person whose lies you most believe is you! You “don’t see what you don’t see” only when you don’t want to see it—or else…
Whether it’s felt between family members, best friends, or people in a romantic relationship, love is one of the sweetest parts of life. With love comes trust, openness, and a complete lack of judgment. And best of all, you can find it everywhere—in fact, thinking about love in strictly a romantic sense can limit the ways you might receive it, says Vienna Pharaon, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist in New York. Although love is hard to define (my go-to definition has always…
Are you the type of person who looks for the green or red flags first when you’re newly dating someone? There’s no wrong answer, both are equally important indicators to know if a person is a good fit for your life. We’re putting an emphasis on the good part in today’s relationship advice and sharing signs someone is definitely a healthy match.When you catch feelings and enter the early stages of dating, it’s all too easy to let toxic traits slide by because #honeymoongoggles. We’ve all been there.…
It’s no secret—love is tricky. But there’s one thing that makes love even more complicated: love triangles. It’s normal for relationships to ebb and flow, but when you throw another person into the mix before you’re completely over said person, it can lead to a complicated entanglement and bunch of mangled, broken hearts. And Hollywood is proof of this. Take a look with L’OFFICIEL as we break down seven famous love triangles, like Bennifer (Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston) and Jelena (Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez). And…
