Having friends with benefits can be incredibly convenient—all the fun, none of the planning-your-future-together—but there are rule. It’s always a good idea to talk about what the expectations are—at some point! To avoid confusion, awkwardness, and disappointments, here are the dos and don’ts to keep in mind:
1. Be Honest
You need to make sure that you’re open about everything. Both of you need to be on the same page in case either of you start developing feelings for each other. Same thing goes if one person wants to end it. You both have to be okay with the end result.
2. Speak Your (Sex) Mind
The main point of having a FWB is to have amazing, satisfying sex. Be honest about what you like and what you don’t like.
3. Ensure You’re Emotionally Ready
Having casual sex can be emotionally tough, for some more than others. A lot of us are programmed to feel a connection after we sleep with someone, so you need to make sure you’re 100 percent okay with having sex that won’t lead to anything deeper.
4. DON’T Get Mad If They Meet Someone
Your FWB is not your partner. They’re allowed to date, tinder stalk, or Facebook friend anyone they wants. If you find out they’re interested in someone, that’s okay, they’re not cheating on you. You’re free to date anyone you want, too.
5. Keep Your Eyes (And Heart) Open For New Relationships
In other words: Don’t get too comfortable, or close yourself off from finding someone you want to be with. You don’t want miss out on not getting to know someone amazing just because you have a sex buddy.